For at least twenty eight years I was under the impression with many ways of being brain washed, and told that I would never have a family, get married or even get the title of being beautiful. Boy was I ever wrong. I have been labelled, shot down and look upon different than what you would think because of the fact I have one thing that came with this brain washing bs.
I was always made to believe that I was never beautiful because of being fat. That I would never get a lover or a man would never date me because I was fat. I am not that same standard anymore. IN face value, i am totally different and learned from the body shaming surfacing that has appeared, that it is a vicious cycle that both men and women place upon our peers, offspring and even ourselves.
Some mad concept that I was made to believe was that no man wants a fat wife. that if i lost a few more pounds i would be made more pretty than I was. That no man would be able to be sexually attracted or want to date a woman with extra weight. Then i grew up. I started exploring newer levels of thinking, things and talking with other persons. I have learned that even our peers nowadays, even though they somehow should have zero impact on our choices, it is our desire to fit in that might complicate them even more so.
After a conversation with a few close male friends that are straight, we have come to a serious conclusion that some men are body shamed not to date what they might be sexually attracted to if not a size zero or a size twelve.
It is because of the impressions placed upon our peers that it has jotted and changed the given impressions we set forth, that might influence us as to whom we might be truly are. That an ugly person is a facet based merely on the construct that beauty is appearance only. and it is because of this, that the views of what we learn to like as a person might actually get jolted. Even women and men, yes both sides of the sexes body shame or fat shame people into dating someone thinner.
Society has made this whole issue of being a “chubby” chaser a bad thing. Just because a person is over weight and a bigger frame, has no way in hell any impact on their health, the way they are or the fact they aren’t a beautiful person. Which makes the person whom might actually like you say something stupid while looking at a magazine cover of a photoshopped image of what a real woman should appear to look like.
Before you say a dumb thought like that aloud, question whether or not that the statement is seen out of fear; or you truly think that it was worth the slam of hurting someone because of your insecurities. And are these insecurities part of a sexual preference for real? Or, are they a conclusion you have learned from the media and other resources? Just ponder it for a moment.
I am not going to lie. I am a five foot eight woman, I weigh 345 pds, have a big frame(even the surgeons whom did the xrays on me for surgery came to this conclusion, along with people who did an mri on me.), I have muscles on my legs that most men work hard to get, size 11w shoe and wear a size 26/28w pant size. I have a bra size of a 48D and broad shoulders. I am now thirty-two years of age and a mommy. I walk daily, swim at least every other day and eat healthy. I am beautiful in every way.
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